Manipulative definitions of Narcissistic Mothers

Mothers with Narcissistic Personality Disorder

When you think about it, where better could a narcissist get such a ready, biddable, vulnerable source ofNarcissistic Supplythan from her own children?

These women have, of course, all the specifictraitsofNarcissistic Personality Disorder. But as mothers they have a few other tricks too, especially for their children.

They fall into one of two categories -engulfing motherswho see no boundaries between themselves and their daughters, andignoring motherswho don't particularly even see their daughters, and certainly don't care. Each is hugely dysfunctional and damaging.

One trick, or aspect, of narcissistic mothers, is thatthey're quite often nice. This can be so confusing - part of the head-wreckingness of this whole NPD. The niceness always hasstrings attachedthough. 

One of Narcissistic mothers' favourite tricks isinvalidation, including a particularly nasty and insiduous form of invalidation calledgaslighting. No matter what emotions or memories you bring up, they'll dismiss them. This leads you to not knowing which way is up. Are they really toxic, or are they right about it all being your fault? (Light'sToxicity Testsorts this dilemma out beautifully!)

They master various forms of abuse, including forcing their children into the Golden Child or Scapegoatroles, and pure and simplebullying. They'reemotional vampires, feeding off yours and others' tragedies, and always dismiss or otherwise ruin your successes and celebrations. I found therefore thatdealing with my narcissistic motherinvolved only the most banal of conversation - I could share neither my highs nor my lows. They also have the twin cruelties ofparentificationandinfantalisation, where they get you to parent them and keep you dependant on them respectfully. A narcissistic mother could do either or both of these.

Another one of their tricks istriangulation, where they make themselves the pivotal point of the family dynamic and everything has to go through them.

Add to this, many narcissistic mothers'extreme vanity, and their sometimesbizarre attitude towards sexuality, and you have quite a combination.

Mothers with Narcissistic Personality Disorder can't do it alone, of course. They need help, andEnabling Fathersare the perfect ones to give them that help.

For a kind of a bitter laugh, check out theNarcissistic Mothers Dictionary, and see how they use words differently from the rest of the world.

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